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Shruthi Vidhya Sundaram's avatar

Everything definitely comes from the fear of abandonment. For me it was feeling of being "weak". Weakness meant death in my head, that I would have no one. It's crazy (but not so too haha) how our mind works no?

Thank you so so much for putting this out! It made me go down the memory lane to when I worked through my fear, and how it still comes up a lot:)

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Shanjitha's avatar

I hear you, Shruthi. And though it’s a long journey, it’s amazing how we feel more and more capable to deal with our fears as we walk through it intentionally.

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Sophie S.'s avatar

I'm definitely the type who always think I have to do things alone. I really had to learn to ask for help and learn that that's ok.

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Shanjitha's avatar

And I think with practice, it stops feeling awkward.

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christina fang's avatar

Great article Shanjitha!!! I really relate especially also as an Asian person, I feel there is more of a tendency to be self-reliant and hide when we are experiencing issues. It's so hard to learn how to let yourself trust, and I find doing it a little bit at a time helps me!

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Shanjitha's avatar

That’s a great idea, Christina. Doing it little by little. Just trusting ourselves here and there. With time, it compounds for sure.

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